This year I'm determined to create healthier habits in all areas of my life! Eating, working out, writing, goal setting, budget tracking, income tracking and everything in between! I want to be consistent and make this part of my routine for the rest of my life! No more rollercoaster rides of just playing it by ear and seeing if I follow through or hit my goal on a whim without a plan. I've been following that plan for years and the same thing keeps happening, NOTHING! I have no idea what's improving and what's getting worse because I don’t keep track of anything!!! I just keep setting goals in my head and I eventually get sidetracked or start new projects and the original goals get put on the back burner until next year, when the same things happen all over again.
What I realized when I started out on this journey is that the reason I wasn’t being intentional with my plan was FEAR! I'm afraid of what other people think of me, what I think of myself and just of failure in general. So I've always chosen to be ignorant by not tracking or setting real goals in order to avoid the possibility that I would fail to meet those goals or that I would expose all of my flaws by doing so. I'm really hard on myself and it seemed by staying in the dark about what I was or wasn’t accomplishing; I was protecting myself from even more self shame and guilt. Being in therapy has helped me recognize this negative cycle, the need for perfectionism, eventually guilt of not accomplishing anything and then shaming myself. It’s a wicked cycle and I'm finally ready to take some action towards a more productive and positive system.
I'm the kind of person that only seems to see the big picture or the end goal. Setting goals can be a great way to make improvements to your life and business but it's easy to get stuck looking at the end goal and feeling like its just not possible. I have a really hard time breaking down a goal into smaller tasks in order to make them more attainable. Setting small goals or intentions is a way to take action towards achieving the big picture. In the past I would create multiple lists of things that need to get done in order to achieve a goal but I never set intention of what, when, where and how I was going to do it. Setting intentions brings energy to our words and actions and assures we can accomplish our goals.
I've always be constrained by the thought that massive success requires massive action and that there's no way I could reach my goals if I wasn’t making ground breaking changes everyday or week. When the reality is if we can make small changes in our daily habits, we can shift our lives onto a different path by following the curve of tiny results. Getting 1% better everyday for a year will make you 37% better by the end of the year.
I recently read a book called Atomic Habits by James Clear, this book changed the way I look at my goals, my identity, and my daily lifestyle. With the help of my boyfriend, therapist, a ton of books and podcasts I'm determined to implement some changes in my life. Stay tuned because over the next few post I'm going to discuss my interpretation of how James Clear breaks down the four stages of habit formation, and the practical action steps I used to shift my identity, one tiny decision at a time. We can silence the fear and shame and start building evidence to empowering ourselves and accomplish our goals!
Hi, I'm Jolene, I started my career in the hair industry over 12 years ago. I have learned a lot along the way, not just about being a hairstylist but about life. I'll keep you up to date on the latest hair color and cut trends of the season, educate you on all different kinds of hair products, styling tools, and everything life!